Profile of a Pedophile Unmasked!
Want the profile of a pedophile? We all do. As a group, pedophiles have similar characteristics, but there are no rules about how they live into those.
Pedophiles are adults who are sexually attracted to kids. Unfortunately, they are also pretty good at keeping that secret.
Those whose secret got out are often tried in a court of law, but not always convicted. Whether they are technically guilty or not, I never discount the danger every pedophile poses to my child.
Research shows that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys will have sexual contact with an adult. It is not unlikely that your child is also in the sights of a predator.
Can You Spot A Pedophile?
Maybe. The profile of a pedophile is hard to detect. They are CEOs. They are homeless beggars. They are friends, neighbors, teachers, priests, aunts, uncles, mothers, fathers… your average Joes and Janes.
Below, I give you some tips on how to recognize one. But remember, these are only tips. Recognizing a pedophile can be difficult and sometimes impossible.
Dr. Anna Salter has an excellent suggestion. She is a therapist who specializes in and interviews sex offenders.
Of all people, she's probably the most qualified to give you the profile of a pedophile.
In her book “Predators”, she recommends that instead of trying to identify a predator, try to make your child a challenging target. Pedophiles do not want a challenge. They want a vulnerable child.
The Invulnerable Child
A child's trust is the predators biggest key to secrecy. They are someone the child confides in as well as someone you would not suspect.
That is what makes the profile of a pedophile so hard to identify.
Pedophiles want a child who is easy to “groom” or “court”. The easiest targets are kids who need attention, who need love, who need to feel wanted, who feel they do not get that at home.
But when you take interest in your child’s life, you become a deterrent.
When parents are watching, pedophiles are on their best behavior. Your mere presence is a turn-off to them. While you are there, your child won’t be getting the extra attention or affection.
Why? Simple really. Your kid doesn’t need it. The predator’s power is gone.
Predators need more than your child’s trust (a good cover-up). They also need the opportunity (a time and place) to molest.
As Dr. Salter said, “No opportunity, no abuse.”
Show up to the extra curricular activities. Be there at ballet or soccer practice. Help supervise the slumber parties and school dances.
Not every parent has time for that. But if you give your child the attention he or she needs, chances are the predator will turn elsewhere.
You virtually make your child invulnerable to pedophiles.
A Pedophile Mind
Seeks For Trust & Opportunity
Tips To Catch A Pedophile
These predators are excellent actors. To catch one in his or her “act”, you have to know what you’re looking for.
These tips (below) illustrate what the profile of a pedophile is. Arm yourself with these questions. The answers alone may not mean anything. But if they start to add up, you may have signs of a pedophile in your midst.
By the way, I say HE in my examples, but there are a lot of SHE's out there that are just as guilty.
Tip #1: Watch His Behavior
- Is he interested more in kids than adults?
- Does he offer to baby-sit or take the kids to give you a break?
- Does he work closely with kids?
- Is he especially affectionate toward kids?
- Does he have activities with kids when parents are not invited or involved?
As a pedophile, he is drawn to children. He places himself in a position with easy access and trust - like working at schools, churches or scouts - so he can choose his targets.
Then the pedophile “courts” his latest victim– buying her gifts, taking her on excursions, anything that makes her feel special – to gain friendship and trust. It works pretty well.
Pedophiles are also good listeners. Once he learns his victim’s strengths and weaknesses, he can toy with her emotions - building self-esteem while he plays on her biggest loves or fears.
To listen to and manipulate a child are elements of the profile of a pedophile.
Is he single, not interested in dating people his age or dating at all?
Is he more interested in his girlfriend or her kids?
Is he married but more affectionate with kids than his spouse?
Is he married to someone with no sexual expectations?
Tip #2: Watch His Relationships
A key distinction in the profile of a pedophiles is his sexual interest in kids... but this may not be his only sexual interest. He may even be married.
But consider his partner.
If she is a pushover or a powerhouse, she may not have any need for intimacy. Marriage is an excellent disguise.
And if he really is sexually interested in his wife... marriage tends to produce more victims – more kids.
But who needs a spouse for a disguise? He can get easy access to his girlfriend’s kids, especially if they live together!
If he finds a particularly needy partner, he can threaten to leave her if she won’t help him molest or get his next victim. After a while, she also becomes addicted to abusing.
She becomes a genuine predator herself.
Many female child molesters emerge this way.
Does he identify better with kids than people his age?
Does he have lots of friends who are kids but not many adult friends?
Do his friends (who are kids) fall within a particular age group?
Tip #3: Watch His Circle of Friends
All pedophiles are interested in kids, but each has his favorite flavor. He usually has a circle of friends within the age group he prefers.
Here is something to note: The older the victims are, the more the pedophile leans toward a specific gender. The younger the children, the less gender matters.
Notice if he lavishes affection on one gender over the other within his young group of friends. This may be a clue as to his preference.
Do you notice a sudden change in her typical behavior?
Does she have sudden sleep problems or nightmares?
Does she draw pictures about sex?
Does she do sexual things or act sexual with other kids?
Does she suddenly fear people or places she didn’t fear before?
These may be tell-tale signs that your child is currently under attack.
Notice the child’s apparel. Does he or she have torn or stained underwear? Or suddenly wear layers of clothes?
Sometimes you can tell by noticing differences in your child’s body. Difficulty walking or sitting, bruises in the genital area, or stomach pains and problems could be warnings. And of course, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or pregnancy are more obvious signs.
These tips outline the general characteristics you find in the profile of a pedophile. Study these. Take note of the people around you and your kids.
Anyone fit the profile?
Is Your Child In Danger?
Again, the best way to protect your child is to make them a difficult target. But some predators will still attack any child - in which case you need to be proactive.
If you suspect it, report it. You owe it to your child.
Call your local police station and ask how to report a child predator. You should be able to report them anonymously.
Be prepared with any evidences you may have – names, dates, times, places, victims, anything that may help the investigation. If you notice internet assaults on a child, print the offensive online chat.
Better to investigate an innocent person than to let a real monster roam free.
Remember, 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys have sexual contact with an adult before the age of 18.
I cannot tell you how many times I hear on the news that the neighbor of an arrested predator suspected something, heard something, noticed something… but shrugged their shoulders and said, “Eh, live and let live.”
No. Report it. Please.
It is not only your moral obligation, but your legal obligation. There are programs in place to protect those who report abuse.
You may save more than your own children.
Need real-life examples of the profile of a pedophile?
Click here to read the stories of 10 convicted pedophiles.
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