Pedophile Stories Series
Kelsey’s Story
“My Dad Is A Pedophile...
How Do I Protect My Kids?”
Her father is a child molester. Her mother says he touched her when she was five. Her mom left him but eventually went back to him. “She was a chicken,” Kelsey said.
Her step-mom was also timid.
“When they got a divorce, he bought off my step-mom with his retirement money so she wouldn’t turn him in.”
“My family just brushes it off. They say ‘he just touched a little girl’ and they skirt around it. They don’t believe it’s really that bad. But it’s bad.”
He molested Kelsey’s step-sister.
“I’m the only one willing to turn him in. But I’m the only one without evidence - so I can’t. I am also the only one who won’t let my dad be around my kids.”
Some family members ostracize her for that decision.
Hard as it is for her, she continues to hold her ground. She has to for her kids’ sake.
Kelsey and her husband had an activity where both sides of the family were invited. “Before he came, I told my in-laws 'Hey, my dad’s a child molester.
Watch your kids.'
“He called me later and said, ‘You shouldn’t have told them that. This is my problem that I’m dealing with.’
“I said, ‘No. You have a problem that hurts little kids. That’s not just your problem.’”
Often her dad turns the tables – he makes Kelsey the bad guy.
He tries to convince her that it’s wrong for her to tell people he is a child molester. It’s wrong for her to cast judgment. She’s not being a good Christian.
“I’ve come so close to rescinding what I’ve said so many times. He twists it around so you’re the one in the wrong. But he’s the one who’s wrong.
And I have to remember that I’m not judging him – I’m just protecting myself.”
He started dating a woman online, and about a week ago he called Kelsey’s sister to confide in her. He’s really struggling. He’s interested in his girlfriend’s 12 year old daughter.
Kelsey determined, “If he decides to marry this woman, I’m going to tell her what he is.
She has to know what she’s getting into. He lives two separate lives and he’s very good at lying.”
Even her husband, Dan, falls for his lies. He called Dan to set up a lunch date with the family next month.
On the phone she heard Dan accept the invitation, but Kelsey couldn’t let it happen.
“We are not doing that to our kids,” she affirmed.
“But he’s getting better. He’s coming around,” Dan argued.
“No! This was last week he was telling my sister he likes that 12 year old girl. He is not better.”
She has to keep reminding her own husband why they have to be on guard.
Her dad has a dark side, and he’s very good at hiding it.
“By letting him be around my kids, I’m allowing them to trust him. ‘He’s my grandpa. Why can’t I go with him? Why can’t I be around him?’
"They don’t understand that I’m trying to protect them.
“And he’s always sending them gifts. Gifts, gifts, gifts, just tons of them like he’s trying to buy his way into the family. Like he’s saying ‘Forgive me’ because he bought them all this stuff.
But I still have to protect them.”
Those gifts are just another sign to watch out for – something that helps him to gain the trust of her innocent children.
“I have to trust my instincts,” Kelsey states.
“I firmly believe that Heavenly Father tells you when you need to do something or when something is wrong. And I have to trust that. I have to trust those feelings.”
Kelsey mentioned that Dan’s cousin is serving 25 years in prison for child molestation. But they didn’t arrest him until it was too late. He molested 10 kids before someone finally reported him… and that someone was family.
Kelsey just wonders how long it will take before someone with evidence finally reports her dad.
“My sister finally went to the bishop about it and he said they couldn’t do anything legally until the second offense. This was the first time they knew about it. So he’s still free, but he needs help.
“That’s how they get away with it. Everyone turns their heads saying, ‘Oh, he’s family.’ Or ‘he is trying to do better.’ No one reports it and they go on molesting. They never stop.”
Kelsey’s sister never thought her dad’s problem was really that bad. But now that she’s pregnant with her own child she told Kelsey, “You know, maybe I don’t want him around my kids.”
In all fairness, Kelsey doesn’t know how many children her father molested. She only knows about her step-sister and what her mother said happened when Kelsey was little.
But if a pedophile has done his job well, only the victim (or people close to the victim) knows about it. If he can convince everyone to keep quiet like he did Kelsey’s step-mom, no one will know how many more children have suffered.
I’ll say this much. By sticking to her guns – her instincts and her desire to get help for her dad – Kelsey will continue to save more than her own children from the terrors of molestation.
She’ll save her brother and sister’s kids. She’ll save her in-laws children. She’ll save his girlfriend’s 12 year old daughter.
How will she save them? She eliminates any opportunity for her dad to abuse. No opportunity, no molestation.
Kelsey is a mom just doing the best she can. In my book, Kelsey is a hero.
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Summary
Signs of a Pedophile
- Married to someone timid, dependent, or afraid to speak out.
- Uses bribery to keep someone from reporting the crime.
- Makes others feel in the wrong for something the pedophile did.
- Sometimes will date women just to get to their children.
- Very convincing. Makes you believe the problem isn’t real or isn’t that big.
- Lavishing children with gifts and affection.
Actions To Take:
- Let parents know to watch their kids around the pedophile.
- Don’t let the pedophile manipulate your feelings and make you believe you are in the wrong.
- Spouse, partner, fiancé – significant others need to know.
- Help your children understand why they can care about the pedophile, but they cannot trust or be alone with this person.
- Trust your instincts! First impressions are correct in so many instances.
- If you don’t have evidence for a police report, at least report it to church leaders. Someone needs to know about the problem.
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