My neighbor is a child molester. What can I do??
(Jacksonville, Florida, USA)
My husband has a friend who lives down the street and they hang a lot. He always kind of creeped me out but I just let it go.
Well I found out he is on the sex offender list for molesting a 10 year old girl! I told my husband about it and he just blew it off because its his friend. He doesn't think the guy really did it. And he still invites the guy over!!
How can he just blow it off? We have a little girl! I don't know what to do and I'm about to freak out! Any suggestions?
First of all, trust your instincts! If he is creepy don't trust him! You don't have to trust anyone you don't want to trust.
That aside, here's where I'd start...
1. Keep a close eye on your little girl.Do NOT let him be alone with her.
It's hard to catch a child molester, let alone convict one. So if he's convicted, he probably has a few (or a lot
) more victims to his name.
Make sure he doesn't have easy access to your daughter.
2. Call your local police. Do they have laws about being alone with kids?
I personally know a convicted pedophile and he's not even allowed to be in the house if a child is there.Do you live close to a school?
Most states have restrictions on how close to schools that a registered child molester can live.
3. It's time to sit down and have a conversation with your husband.
You have a serious concern for your child's safety that he needs to consider, not ignore
I would share with him the fact that most kids know their child molester. Second, I'd explain that pedophiles try to gain the trust of the parents before they molest kids. It keeps them from being a "likely suspect".
Remember that convicted pedophile I mentioned? Ask anyone who knows him, they will tell you... "He is the nicest guy! His conviction? Just a mistake from the past
Is it true? Yes AND no. He's always been nice to me, but he has a serious problem. He likes little girls a little too much. No one would know it, except that he's really trying to get past it. He won't go in your house if you have a child in there... and he'll tell you why!
But most pedophiles are not that repentant
. If they are, they will do their best to keep away from their addiction and temptation - kids.
Any convicted child molester who shrugs at the idea that he is close to other kids is not repentant. He is just warming everyone up to the idea that he is just fine around kids.
Don't fall for it!
You might also review a couple of these links with him too. That way you can both discuss your thoughts about what's going on and how it relates to your situation: Child Molester Myths
and Child Molester Stories
... it's almost always a trusted adult.
Hope that helps! Good luck and keep a close watch on that neighbor.