Can a pedophile fall in love with their victims?
by Amber Jones
I know that a pedophile usually kills their victim, but are there chances of them falling in love with their victim???
Thanks for asking. Your question raises 2 points that should be addressed:
One is a common myth. Most pedophiles do NOT kill their victims because it is "too much work". It does happen - usually with strangers who molest children. But the typical pedophile isn't a stranger. Most pedophiles like to molest kids that they know, kids who trust them, kids whose parents trust them, and then manipulate those kids into sexual abuse and then silence (using bribery, threats, etc). That way the pedophile has a long-term victim who he can molest over and over again instead of going through all the "work" to find new victims, hide his victims, or live in hiding himself. Molesting this way allows him to live a “normal life” while entertaining his mental disorder.
The second point is the answer to your question – yes. Some pedophiles claim they have fallen in love with their victims. More often than not, it is the female pedophile that “falls” for her victim, feels like she has found her soul mate, her eternal companion, or at least a “man” who understands her and is on her same level of maturity. You can read more about the female pedophile here. Male pedophiles don’t typically claim such affinity, but some have made that statement.
A romantic relationship like this is very unhealthy for the adult and especially for the child. You can find stories of this in all kinds of books. A few good illustrations of this can be found in a book called “Women Who Sexually Abuse Children” by Jacqui Saradjian and another titled “Predators” by Anna Salter.
One story tells of a female pedophile that lived next door to her victim. After a particularly brutal weekend of sexual abuse, the boy ran away from home. When later interviewed, the pedophile told authorities that she didn’t understand why he would run away and leave her so abruptly… there must be something seriously wrong at home for him to leave his soul mate like that. What the child told authorities (once he was found and brought back home) was that he hated this woman – the pedophilic neighbor who sexually used him. He hoped to never see her again.
Remember that pedophilia is a mental disorder. Falling in love with a prepubescent child is not normal behavior for a healthy adult.
So can a pedophile fall in love with his or her victims? Yes, but it is just another sign of how mentally ill they have truly become.